Finding the right girl to spend time with and asking personal questions is something that every single guy yearns with. Being something very innate and almost primal, relationships tend to be among the main things on the agenda of most guys.
As much as relationships might be a ‘common’ thing in this world, it tends to come with a not-so-common aspect attached to it. It is the ‘compatibility’ factor of every single person that you come across in your life. Not everyone is compatible to spend their life with you. Owing to numerous different reasons; be it culture, religion, ethnicity, interests, passions, hobbies, likes, dislikes, habits, etc, most people can be difficult to deal with on an everyday basis.
You can fantasize about how magical and romantic the whole concept of love may be. At the same time however, realize that life is not a fairytale. You are going to deal with the other person for the rest of your life if you are looking out for a long-term relationship as opposed to casual flings.
This compatibility factor can end up becoming really problematic to couples down the road, should the differences that exist between them be a lot more than whatever similarities they may happen to share. If one wishes to make sure that this doesn’t happen to a future relationship, the problem has to be dealt in the beginning itself. To deal with the issue is by no means an impossible task. It is very much possible to handle issues such as this one without having to go through too much of fuss.
Dating might be a great way to handle the issue and figure out if the potential partner is worth getting committed to in the long run. However, there is a much better way to go about doing this to test compatibility; asking personal questions. The simple act of asking personal questions can be more than enough to know whether or not the other person is ideal for you. It is not fool proof, but certainly effective.
It will certainly take the both of you some amount of trust before you start to open up to each other. However, once you do, the real fun will begin. By merely asking each other a couple of personal questions, you can figure out at least to a certain level of certainty just how compatible the other person is.
Given below in the list are some of the best personal questions which you can ask her, to know if she is the right one or not.
- Is this the first time you have been out on a date?
- At what age did you have your first boyfriend?
- Did you ever have a boyfriend in the past?
- What happened to your previous relationship?
- Do you believe in feminism?
- What does feminism mean to you?
- When it comes to relationships in general, are you an idealist or a realist?
- Do you believe in true love?
- Do you believe that couples should be friends first before they are lovers?
- What does religion mean to you?
- Do you believe in God?
- Are you an atheist or an agnostic?
- Do you believe in traditional marriage?
- What matters more to you in life between motherhood and children?
- Do you desire children in the future?
- What would be the ideal number of children according to you?
- How much do you value your friends?
- Are you still in touch with friends you made decades ago?
- What do you generally expect out of a friendship?
- How many friends do you think one should have in life?
- Do you believe in destiny or free will?
- Have you ever cheated in your previous relationships?
- What do you believe is the most important thing in a relationship?
- Do you think money is just the means to an end or an end unto itself?
- Have you ever dated anyone who was younger than you?
- In terms of politics, are you a conservative, liberal or something else?
- Do you believe in a cosmopolitan lifestyle?
- Do you prefer living in an urban or rural area?
- Do you like guys who have tattoos or piercings?
- Do you believe in traditional gender roles?
- What do you think about the modern men’s rights movement?
- Do you like to travel a lot?
- Do you keep secrets or gossip them away to the first person that you meet?
- Have you ever been in love with someone you couldn’t have?
- Are you a person who seeks to share her feelings with others or deal with them yourself?
- Are you a possessive person in a relationship?
- Did you ever have a one night stand?
- Are you a patient person in a relationship?
- How long did the last relationship you have last?
- Did you initiate the breakup of your last relationship or was it your ex-boyfriend?
In all, the above are by no means an exhaustive list of personal questions in any sense.
On the contrary, you can consider them as a stepping stone to come up with your own questions that will permit you to better understand the person you are with. Done right, you should be able to easily figure out if the girl you are with is worth the effort, or if you are better off finding someone else instead.
